In life, just like in digital maps, there are moments when we simply need to recalculate.
Not because we’ve failed, but because we’ve changed.
Or maybe because we never really knew whether the path we were following was truly ours.
When the path no longer fits
Sometimes we feel we’ve strayed from the goal we once set.
Or worse: that goal was never really ours to begin with.
At those times, inner judgments may show up:
“If I can’t make my life look the way it should, I must not be good enough.”
It’s easy to confuse success with self-worth.
But they are not the same.
Our worth does not depend on reaching a goal.
We are worthy simply because we exist.
Conditional love: the silent trap
Many of us learn early in life that love must be earned.
Getting good grades.
Not being a bother.
Fulfilling expectations.
Being “the good kid” might seem like a virtue, but often it’s a trap that distances us from freedom.
It turns us into performers of a role that isn’t ours —a character built to please.
And when, as adults, we feel that something doesn’t fit, that we can’t breathe, that we’re disconnected from ourselves,
that might be a sacred moment: the moment when the door opens to truly living.
Wrong route… or borrowed goal?
Maybe it’s not just about changing course.
Maybe we need to reconsider the destination we were trying to reach.
What if the goal you once chose has nothing to do with who you truly are?
What does a creative, sensitive or dream-filled person feel in a world that prizes logic, duty and efficiency?
To question is to begin healing
Ask yourself:
- What did my mother want for me?
- What did my father expect?
- What was my family’s unspoken script about who I should be?
This isn’t about blame.
It’s about freeing yourself from what isn’t yours, so you can begin building a life that is.
A process of coming back to yourself
In Gestalt therapy, we work with these moments of transition.
Not to give you a new path, but to accompany you as you rediscover who you are and what you truly want,
beyond obligations, “shoulds” and inherited expectations.
If this moment has come for you, you can stop, listen, and start recalculating.
