And while the house shakes, I realize that the weather is a great example of everything we cannot control, only accept.
But what is the difference between accepting and resigning?
Resignation shuts you down. Acceptance opens you up.
When a client says, “I’m resigning myself,” I feel sadness.
When they say, “I accept it,” I feel calm.
The difference might seem subtle, but it’s not.
Resignation means giving up without hope.
Acceptance means facing reality with open eyes, while staying present within it.
Acceptance is not submission, it is participation.
Resignation is passive, like playing dead to survive.
Acceptance is an active act: it involves recognizing what is, without giving up on what could still be.
Resignation says: “I have no strength, so I’ll just stick with this.”
Acceptance says: “For now, I can only handle this… and I’ll keep trying.”
Acceptance is playing the game, even if you’re losing.
The resigned person stays on the bench.
The one who accepts steps onto the field, even knowing they might not win.
Acceptance is not giving up on yourself.
It is living with your conflicts without denying them, avoiding them, or abandoning yourself in them.
It means choosing how you want to be with yourself, even when the wind blows strong and the path gets narrow.
Peace is not the absence of conflict. It is presence within it.
Living in peace doesn’t mean that everything is okay.
It means taking responsibility for what is, managing your conflicts with maturity, and being willing to learn and transform through them.
Surviving is not the same as living.
Acceptance means staying in motion, inhabiting your life without disconnecting from it.
It means remembering that the outcome of the match can change at any moment: with an insight, a hug, a decision, a smile.
It’s never too late to keep playing.
If you feel like you’re in pause, if you sense that you’re giving up too soon,
maybe what you need isn’t to fight, but to accept what is with courage and choose again from there.
Gestalt Therapy offers you a space for that, to look at yourself without judgment, to support you in what you’re going through, and to help you find your own way without giving up on yourself.
