Some stories leave a deep mark.
Stories like Dracula don’t just fascinate us —they mirror us.
When I was twelve, I read Dracula by Bram Stoker and watched Coppola’s film adaptation.
And something inside me —in my adolescence, my sense of not fitting in, my overflowing romanticism— found a home in that darkness.
“I have crossed oceans of time to find you.”
“She is a willing concubine.”
These lines, beyond the myth, say a lot about how we idealise love—even when it hurts.
What if vampires existed… as relationships?
In the movie, the vampire cannot enter a house unless invited.
And in life, many times we attract people who drain our emotional energy, but their power depends on how much we give ourselves away.
When desire becomes need, when we confuse intensity with depth, it’s easy to justify the unjustifiable.
The price of impossible love
Some relationships captivate us with their epic nature…
but shatter us from the inside.
We idealise the other.
We give ourselves fully.
We abandon personal projects, life goals, inner peace.
All in the name of love.
But… what is the price?
What are you willing to sacrifice for a connection that takes more than it gives?
Are you cursing your own soul without realising it?
In Dracula, the prince condemns his soul for love.
In real life, many of us condemn ourselves to small inner deaths for not letting go of a relationship that has no future.
We hold on, hoping the other will change.
We convince ourselves that the sacrifice will be worth it.
But what we lose is our vitality, our dreams, our freedom.
Reclaiming power over your own heart
This is not about denying desire or repressing love.
It’s about recognising when love stops doing you good, and learning to walk yourself through the letting go.
In Gestalt therapy, we work from this place:
- Differentiating desire from need
- Identifying the limits of giving
- Reclaiming the power to choose from the present, not from the wound
What are you willing to lose by not letting go?
If you’re in a romantic but frustrating relationship, if you feel you’re losing yourself in the name of love, this is a good moment to pause and listen deeply.
Gestalt therapy can help you come back to yourself —without giving up on love, but without getting lost in it.
